Is she flirting with me?
Mating rituals and dating games have existed as long as men and women. You may say, ‘hate the game, not the player’, but the fact still remains; to even have a chance to score you have to know how to talk to women. Flirting is the coy and playful way that women often send subtle signals that they are interested in a man. By ‘interested’, we mean in romantic sexual way. This means that she doesn’t ‘like you as friend’.
With the advent of dating websites, much of today’s flirting is done online. This has caused many men to atrophy in their skills of recognizing and responding to a woman when she flirts with them. There is nothing wrong with online dating, but eventually you’re going to have to go AFTKB to get laid. If you need to brush up on your skills for online dating, we’ve got you covered. Here are some basics of how to identify, discern and reply to a women when she is flirting with you.
In this article, we’ll look at two primary types of flirting signs, obvious signs and online flirts. If you enjoy this article we might cover stickier subjects like workplace flirting signs. With all of the sexual harassment lawsuits you can open yourself too by flirting in the office you can get in hot water quick. You need to master the basics first, starting with the nuts and bolts.
Obvious Flirting Signs
Let’s lay some groundwork. There are, in fact, dead giveaways that she’s flirting with you. Noticing and responding appropriately to these social signals is your first step to a successful first impression. This list of core flirting signs is actually more comprehensive (longer) than we listed here, but it will give you a good idea what to expect. Pay attention to her body language, and notice if she does any of the following.
She twirls her hair when you come around.
Biting her lower lip for no reason.
‘Asian school girl’, covered mouth giggle.
Touches your chest, shoulders, arm… etc.
Sends you silly, suggestive text messages or snaps. [Note: Online flirting is covered below.]
These are five of the most obvious signs she’s flirting with you, but be careful. Note: You must give women the respect they deserve. Most of them are way more savvy when it comes to the dating game. They have to be. The drive to be choosy when selecting a mate gives them a natural advantage in the courtship phase.
Consequently, some women may use these obvious signs to lure you into a trap. Be careful! If you are on a lame business trip in Las Vegas and a gorgeous women comes at you from out of the blue with some or all of these flirts, she might be playing you! She’s using her sex appeal to separate you from your wallet and hard earned cash it contains. Are we saying that you need to be wary of an assertive, sexy woman flirting with you? Hell no! Just follow the sage advice, if it’s too good to be true it probably is.
The importance of eye contact
In American culture, maintaining eye contact is an important flirting sign. The reason for this is simple; the woman is testing your confidence. She’ll engage in eye contact flirting with a man she is interested in for a few reasons. It demonstrates that she is listening to you and interested in what you are telling her. She is also carefully observing your behavior to see if you break contact to stare at your watch or ogle other women in the room.
Being able to hold a conversation in a funny and interesting way, while keeping eye contact with your date will demonstrate to her that you have confidence. This is one of the most desirable traits of what women want in a man. Basically, she wants to know (let me mansplain this to you), ‘Is this guy a pussy or not?’ If you keeping looking at the floor or off to side while she is talking, it’s only a matter of time before she puts you in the dreaded friendzone. At this point, there is little to nothing you can do to escape from this. It’s best to end the meeting in a friendly way and start over with someone new.
Building confidence is a complex subject. There are many facets to be considered, such as, gaining wealth, boosting testosterone, your skill level in sexual intercourse, and being a great conversationalist. If you need help becoming a manly man, check out our article, Being Manly: The 10 Manliest Things On Earth. If you haven’t already experienced the response from women when you are confident, you’ll be shocked to notice their reaction. When you get beyond living paycheck to paycheck, or lift some weights, etc… the ability to maintain eye contact with a sexy woman might even surprise you!
Flirting signs online
Let’s face it, the way most people meet singles and hook up is online now. Dating apps and sites can give you more visibility, and allow you to see more prospects. You can check out user’s photos and message them long before you ever meet them in person. Stay true to who you are. If you decide to give digital dating a try, there are some common pitfalls you need to be aware of.
Notoriously, some people are serial online daters, and never have any intention of meeting the other user. They often paint a flawless portrait of themselves online. Airbrushing not only their profile photos, but details about their life. If you fall victim to this practice, you’ll have a lot of explaining to do later on when she realizes that you don’t actually earn a six figure salary or the washboard abs you once rocked have been destroyed by a lot of pizza and beer.
Even more, there are small groups of perverts who try to lure underage children online to meet up and have sex. Read an interview with an online vigilante who tracks and confronts these sickos. Or check out the sting operation that Volusia County Sheriffs Office conducted to get these pedophiles off the streets and behind bars where they belong. Again, going back to the basics, if ‘she’ starts sending you sexy photos right out of the gate, you can expect the her to send you a link to an even shadier sex cam website soon after. Allow me to share a common example of this from my own life.
I had a Skype account to keep in touch with US based friends while working abroad. For some reason, I would get friend requests from unknown women. At first, everything seemed legit. It turns out that they were actually online bots programmed to respond in convincing human fashion. I admit, I fell for it the first few times. Then I got wise. When the bot would send a friend request, I would try to respond with something super random. Then the bot would reply with a comment that totally gave it away. BLOCK!
Don’t be paranoid after reading it. Online dating isn’t going away and if you want to be successful in the cyber dating arena, you need to be able to pick up when a woman is flirting over the web. It doesn’t matter which website you choose, but stick with the more reputable ones. If you are into Asian girls, try Date in Asia. Perhaps, you want to skip dating altogether and prefer a management company to introduce to a potential life partner. Once known as mail order brides, this business practice also has websites dedicated to it. There are literally dating sites that cater to every niche, from Christian dating, law enforcement or even farmers.
Here are some telltale signs she is flirting with you online:
She asks what your plans for the weekend are.
If she mentions she has ‘two tickets’ to any event, she wants you to ask her out.
Uses emoticons to single happy, silly or playful emotions.
Her responses are sent immediately after you send. The conversation flows steadily.
She tells you a funny, embarrassing story about something she did ‘a long time ago’.
If a woman starts to flirt online with you, remember not to rush to the finish line. If you immediately go in with crude sexual humor or start bombarding with your dick pics, you’ve done F’d up. You have to gradually warm her up, and then you might be surprised what kind of nasty talk she is willing to engage in. This is all happening from the safety and security of her own room, so she may indulge in fantasies that would be otherwise repressed if in public. With a little practice, you can easily develop the skills necessary to flirt online.
Conclusion
Either flirting with a girl online or in person, common sense and social awareness will win the day. Recognizing the basics of first impressions and having the ability to hold a conversation will be key. Maintaining eye contact while she is flirting with you is paramount. Again, be skeptical of situations that seem too good to be true, and don’t believe everything you see online.
If you keep these basic guidelines in mind when you think a girl is flirting with you, you’ll be well on your way to positive interaction.
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